I’ve ruined my best mate’s wedding with hen do pics

Dear Coleen

My best friend had her hen do in Ibiza last week.

There was a group of six of us and we had an amazing time. But her fiancé has hit the roof because I posted some photos on Instagram where we’re all obviously drunk and hanging out with some guys we met at a club.

There’s also one of her lying passed out next to a swimming pool with empty wine bottles and ashtrays around her. I thought it was funny, but her fiancé has had a total sense of humour failure and he’s furious with her and with me.

I feel it’s my fault, as I posted the pictures, but I didn’t think he’d react like this. Yes, we’re all drunk and his fiancée doesn’t exactly look like someone who’s about to get married, draping herself over total strangers. But it was just a laugh.

She didn’t even kiss anyone and I absolutely know she’d never cheat on her fiancé. It looks a lot worse than it was and I deleted the pictures as soon as I knew he was upset. I’m worried I’ve ruined things between them. They’re getting married in June but, right now, everyone is arguing. I feel awful but I also think he’s making a mountain out of a molehill. What can I do to make the situation better?

Coleen says

OK, you broke the golden rule of hen and stag dos by revealing what happened – what happens in Vegas, stays in Vegas and all that. Perhaps you should have run it by your friend before you posted the photos and asked her if she thought her fiancé would be OK about it. But that’s the problem with social media – it takes seconds to post something without giving it proper thought, but the consequences can last a lot longer.

I think you’ve been a bit thoughtless but I think he’s probably overreacting too.

He’s clearly sensitive – maybe because he has insecurities and these photos hit a nerve.

If I were you, I’d pay her fiancé a visit, apologise in person and reassure him that it was all good, clean fun apart from a couple of drunken nights and a few bad hangovers.

That’s all you can do. I reckon once the dust has settled, he’ll calm down and all will be forgiven – why would he ruin his relationship over a few drunken snaps of his fiancée cutting loose on her hen do?

If they do make it down the aisle, it’ll be a good anecdote for the speeches!

It was just a bit of a laugh – she would not stray