SHOULD I TELL ON MARRIED WOMANISER?

Dear Coleen

I’m a single woman in my 20s and a few weeks ago I met a man on a night out with friends and we ended up sleeping together at my place.

The next morning we swapped contact details and I really thought we’d get in touch and go out together.

He was so charming and we both agreed the sex was great – there was a real chemistry between us.

I never heard from him after our night together, though, and he’d given me a fake phone number and email address. He was obviously used to doing this kind of thing.

I told a few of my friends what happened and one of them told me he’s married to a girl who lives in her mum’s street.

I’m horrified as I fell for his chat and also feel guilty because he’s married.

Should I let his wife know what he did?

He’s treated both of us badly, so surely he should pay the price?

Coleen says

You sound like a nice person and obviously feel bad about what happened but, at the end of the day, you are single and he’s the one who cheated. He’s the one who should be feeling guilty.

But my honest opinion is, I don’t think you’ll gain anything from telling his wife. It would only make you feel better for maybe about five seconds.

And the messenger usually gets shot – I don’t think she’ll thank you. All you’ll be doing is getting more involved in his mess when you can walk away.

Maybe his wife knows he’s a player but doesn’t want to confront it. But, if not, I’m sure she’ll find out pretty soon if he carries on the way he is. Learn from it and move on, and be grateful things didn’t develop any further with this man.