I LOVE MY EX AND MY HUSBAND

Dear Coleen

I met up again with my ex after 17 years. He is married with kids and so am I and we’re both kind of happy in our lives, but still agreed to be friends and lovers.

We also agreed we wouldn’t let our relationship affect our marriages and that we’ll never expect anything else from each other in the future. We do love each other, but I also love my husband and he loves his wife.

When we’re together, we’re so close and I have no regrets but I know deep down it’s not right. Please tell me what I should do.

Coleen says

You know what you should do but if you want me to confirm it for you, then here it is: what you’re doing is not right and you need to end it. Affairs always lead to someone getting their heart torn to bits and don’t be naive enough to thing that carrying this on won’t affect your marriages.

I know you say you love your husband and if that’s true, then have a bit of self-control. Why do you need a lover? Is your husband not enough for you?

If you do genuinely want to be married to him then why would you jeopardise it for a bit of excitement?

And that’s all it is. But it won’t be so thrilling when it all blows up in your face. Try to find the excitement in your own marriage and with your husband.

If that doesn’t work, then leave him and you can sleep with whoever you want.