JUST DISCOVERED HE’S A LIAR

Dear Coleen bringing this up with him, but you need to ask yourself how do you feel about staying with someone who’s lied to you and is also hurting his kids?

If he’s inclined to fly off the handle, there’s probably no way of doing it without him reacting badly. I expect he’ll blame you, blame his ex and blame everyone but himself.

You just have to explain that you looked at his phone because his story wasn’t ringing true and, as the situation was putting pressure on your relationship, you wanted to know the truth.

You need to know why he lied. It sounds like he needs angermanagement counselling.

You’ve only been together a year, so you’re still in the ‘honeymoon phase’, but how long will it be before he starts being aggressive towards you?