HE MOVED IN AND NOW I REGRET IT

Dear Coleen

My boyfriend and I have been together about a year now. He used to stay a few nights a week, but he has recently moved in with me and I’m kind of regretting it.

He’s the laziest person you could ever meet. I do all the cleaning and cooking – he won’t even take his dirty cup to the kitchen.

He also snores. It’s horrendous and keeps me up all night which makes me irritable the next day. I’m fed up of having to sleep on the sofa or in the spare bed as they’re both uncomfortable.

I’ve tried talking to him about this stuff, but all I get told is to “shut up and grow up” and “stop moaning about pathetic things”.

I’ve asked him to sleep on the sofa so I can get a good night’s sleep as I have a school run to do most mornings before work and I’m really struggling with tiredness, whereas he can go back to bed as he doesn’t work.

He just says he’s the “man of the house”.

Am I moaning over nothing?

Coleen says Um no. It’s your home that he’s moved into and he’s showing you absolutely no respect whatsoever.

If anyone told me to shut up in my own home while not lifting a finger to help with anything, they’d be out on their ear straight away.

Moving in with someone is a huge test of any relationship – you’re either compatible or you’re not – and right now it doesn’t sound like you are.

It’s about teamwork and compromise, and your boyfriend is clearly not in that mindset.

Stop running after him and tell him you need to sit down and talk about what you expect from each other. It has to be a joint effort or it won’t work.

As for the snoring, he should be the one to sleep on the sofa or in the spare bed.

If your instincts are telling you it was a bad decision to move in together, then don’t feel embarrassed about asking him to leave. Lying in bed and doing nothing all day doesn’t sound very “manly” to me.