I SLEPT WITH MY DAUGHTER’S EX

Dear Coleen

I’m a 48-year-old single woman with a daughter of 23. Recently, I ended up sleeping with her ex-boyfriend, who’s 28, after having a lot to drink.

There was always a spark between us and we used to enjoy chatting. They split up two months ago when my daughter moved 60 miles away to live with her dad and take up a work placement.

A couple of weeks ago, I was in a local bar with some friends and he was there. We got chatting and I ended up inviting him back to mine for a nightcap. One thing led to another and we ended up in bed.

I haven’t seen him since, but I can’t stop thinking about our night together. He texted me yesterday, asking if I wanted to meet up, but I’m worried about my daughter and how it would affect our relationship if she found out. What do you think?

Coleen says I think you have to ask yourself very seriously if a fling with this lad is worth potentially ruining the relationship you have with your daughter.

Because, let’s face it, the chances of it turning into a serious partnership are pretty slim. She will be upset and see it as a betrayal, and will wonder whether the whole time she was dating him if the two of you fancied each other or were even planning to get together. It’s a line you just don’t cross.

As a mother, I wouldn’t lose my daughter for anyone. You should be thinking about her first. Instead, you’re letting your ego affect your judgment.

I get that you’re flattered by the attentions of a much younger guy, but he’s your daughter’s ex and therefore he should be off limits.

Sometimes you can’t have what you want because it affects the lives of others – and this is one of those situations. You have to be the grown-up here because you know your daughter will be hurt. It’s just not worth it. Get your kicks somewhere else.