WORN OUT BY MIXED MESSAGES
Dear Coleen
Coleen says OK, he sounds like an absolute player to me – he loves all the flirting at work, but he won’t commit to anything more.
Perhaps he just loves having his ego boosted or he might even have a serious girlfriend – you admit you know virtually nothing about him.
I think if he wanted things to go further with you, then I think he would make the time for you.
So my advice is to stop encouraging him. Don’t flirt back, keep your relationship at work friendly but professional and see what happens.
You’ve made it very clear how you feel, so let him do the chasing.
In the meantime, give yourself opportunities to meet other men. There’s a man at work I really like and recently, on an office night out, he confessed he found me attractive. We’d both had a couple of drinks, but weren’t drunk.
For the next few weeks our relationship was very flirty, but recently he’s been really off-hand with me and even a bit mean.
I really fancy him and care about him too, but I don’t actually know that much about him outside of work. I know nothing about his past relationships, for example, as he never talks about stuff like that.
I’m getting such mixed messages because he’s now started talking to me about girls he fancies and would like to sleep with, but then he still flirts with me. It’s making me insanely jealous and confused. I’ve asked