I FANCY MY LATE WIFE’S FRIEND

Dear Coleen

My wife died eight months ago and we’d been married for more than 40 years.

For the past 20, we were friends with a couple who live up the road from us and we’d always gone on holiday together.

Four years ago the husband died and his wife carried on holidaying with me and my wife.

She was my wife’s best friend and I honestly never thought of her as anything else.

However, now my wife has died she’s asked me to go on holiday with her again this year.

However, this year, of course, it’ll just be the two of us.

We’ll be staying in our usual place in Spain, which is a two-bedroom villa. She’s a lovely woman and I think I may be developing feelings for her.

But I’m worried that if I made a move I could ruin a 20-year friendship and disrespect my late wife and her late husband.

But I’m only 69 and I’d still like to think there’s a chance to find companionship or love again.

What do you think?

Coleen says

There is always that risk of ruining a friendship when you cross the line into romance. To be honest, you’ve probably already crossed that line a little if you’re looking at this lady differently.

But the fact is, there’s a very good chance she’s looking at you in the same way too. Rather than rush into anything or over-think this, why don’t the two of you go away on holiday and see what happens?

Maybe she’s got feelings for you or maybe she hasn’t and the holiday will give you a really good indication of how she’s feeling. You can just test the water as the week goes on.

I’d let her guide things.