HE TRICKED ME AND IS MARRIED

Dear Coleen

I’m 27 and earlier this year I met a lovely man through some friends at work. He chased me relentlessly with calls, emails and texts.

He was so charming and I’ve never felt so flattered in my life. After a few weeks we slept together and the sex was amazing.

I had recently broken up with a long-term boyfriend who I’d been with since I was 18 and this man was so different to him – the sex was brilliant, and he was really charming and clever. He told me he was falling for me and I was falling in love with him too.

I thought that we had a future together and that he could be the one. But then I found out through one of the guys at work that he was married. I was heartbroken. When I confronted him, he told me he had no intention of leaving his wife and ended our relationship.

Now he won’t return any of my calls, texts or emails. Do you think he loved me at all or was he just using me?

I’m completely heartbroken and will never get over him.

Coleen says

Of course he was using you and of course he didn’t love you – if he did he’d be returning your calls. They’re the harsh facts and reality of this situation.

I’m so sorry this has happened to you because you were innocent in all of this.

But I have to ask you why you’re still calling, texting and emailing him now that you know he’s married? What are you hoping to achieve? Do you want to get back together? Or are you after an explanation? Because to be honest, there is no explanation needed – he was using you. And if it’s because you want to get back with him, why on earth would you want to do that?

I think you’ve had a really lucky escape from a horrible man who’s not only deceived you but also deceived his wife.

Instead of feeling sad you’ve lost him, be thankful you didn’t end up with someone so awful.