DUMPED HIM BUT REALISED MY MISTAKE

Dear Coleen

I broke up with my ex just over a month ago. Afterwards I had a rebound fling, but quickly realised that I still really loved my boyfriend.

I knew I’d made a massive mistake by ending things with him, but at the time I felt he was becoming too significant in my life and I’d lost interest in sport and in my university work.

We did start talking again after a few weeks and were ‘back on’, but a week or two later he ended it.

Ever since I haven’t been able to stop thinking about him being happy on his own or getting together with other girls.

I know I slept with someone else and this is probably how he felt when he saw what I was doing. But I can’t stop obsessing about him.

How do I move on?

Coleen says It’s a terrible cliché, but I think time will help – it is the best healer.

Look, you’ve tried to make a go of it a couple of times with this guy and it hasn’t worked – why would it be third time lucky?

I think you need to trust your instincts that you ended the relationship for good reasons.

So why not take the focus away from your ex by concentrating on your sport and your studies again, and seeing other friends.

If you distract yourself and get involved with other things, you’ll find yourself thinking about him less and less.