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Dear Coleen

I watched the Ge­orge Michael Free­dom doc­u­men­tary re­cently and the con­cert after­wards on TV.

I found my­self cry­ing all the way through and felt so moved hear­ing the songs. I never imag­ined I could get so emo­tional over some­one I’ve never met, but I have cried quite a lot since his pass­ing. I’ve been a fan and we were born in the same year – 1963.

I lost my dad in Jan­uary 2016 and over the past few years I also lost my mum and other rel­a­tives and I think I’m still griev­ing. I’m see­ing a coun­sel­lor, but won­dered if you had any thoughts on why a TV pro­gramme could pro­voke this re­ac­tion.

Coleen says

It’s clearly trig­gered a deep emo­tional re­sponse in you. I think when some­one close dies, you al­most have to put a brave face on and keep go­ing and be strong.

Then when some­thing un­re­lated hap­pens, all those emo­tions can come flood­ing back and hit you, and you’re trans­ported to the times when you lost your par­ents and other rel­a­tives.

It’s great that you’re see­ing a coun­sel­lor and you should keep it up as long as you need to. The timescale of grief is dif­fer­ent for every­one and what you’re feel­ing is com­pletely nat­u­ral. It doesn’t feel like it, but it’s your body’s way of heal­ing.

When any­one dies, I in­stantly think of my sis­ter Bernie who passed away four years ago. It’s al­most like you’re given per­mis­sion to cry and feel some­thing. And that’s OK.

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