SO SURE I’M IN LOVE WITH PAL’S HUBBY

Dear Coleen

I feel bad admitting to this, but I think I’m in love with my friend’s husband. I’m separated from my own husband, but I wasn’t on the lookout for anyone – there’s just a spark with this guy and I think he fancies me too.

I know you’re going to say don’t go there, but I feel so strongly. In fact, I’ve never had feelings this strong for any other man. Although I’ve never had a conversation with him about it, there’s literally electricity between us.

The thing that makes me feel slightly better about it is that his wife (my friend) is always complaining about their marriage.

What should I do?

Coleen says

I think you should stay well away. I know that’s hard when you’re really attracted to someone, but you know it’s the right thing to do.

Of course, if you’re not bothered about destroying your friendship, losing your pals and devastating your families, then go for it!

You’re also assuming a lot – you’ve never had a conversation with this guy about what he thinks.

He might be perfectly happy with his wife, whether he finds you attractive or not.

Also, your friend might be sounding off about her marriage because that’s what you do with friends – you offload on them and confide in them. I’m sure she doesn’t expect you to jump in!

Personally, I think there are plenty more fish in the sea, so why choose someone who’s married to your friend? I’d also guess that this big romantic idea you have of him wouldn’t live up to expectations, so you need to go out and find your own partner, not your friend’s.