HIS DAD IS REALLY LECHEROUS

I’d like to respond to the woman in her mid-50s who’s single and stuck in a rut (Dear Coleen, Jan 8). I’ve recently turned 50 and been single for five years. I never turn down an opportunity because I don’t want to be home alone. Get on a dating app. Yes, there are a lot of frogs, but there are some great people too. Like me. Ian, Liverpool

Dear Coleen

My husband wants to go on holiday with his parents this year, but I don’t and it’s causing lots of arguments.

I wish I could tell him the real reason I don’t want to go, but it would cause so much trouble in the family.

His dad is really lecherous and is always giving me the eye.

Thankfully, he’s never tried anything on and I don’t think he would, but when we were alone once, and quite a lot of booze had been consumed, he suggested that if I wasn’t with his son and he were a younger man, we might have been an item.

I told him in no uncertain terms I couldn’t think of anything worse.

I’m very cold towards him, but it doesn’t seem to put him off – any ideas?

Coleen says Tell your husband. You don’t have to go into detail if you don’t want to, but say that it makes you uncomfortable and you’d rather just the two of you went on holiday. If you insist you’re not going, there’s not much he can do about it – he can’t make you go on holiday and enjoy yourself.

Point out that even if you did go, you wouldn’t enjoy it and that would have an impact on him and on your relationship because you’d end up resenting him for it.

Most people past a certain age don’t holiday with their parents, but if it’s that important to him, then suggest he goes away with his mum and dad, and you’ll plan to take a trip with your friends.

Really, though, he should be listening to you and taking you seriously, and he should want to spend the holiday with you instead of his parents.