FIANCE IN NO RUSH TO GET WED

Dear Coleen

My boyfriend and I got engaged at Christmas after being together for three years. I was over the moon – we’re both turning 28 this year and I feel ready to get married and start a family.

The problem is, he won’t discuss anything to do with the actual wedding, including how and when he wants to do it.

In fact, he seems quite irritated by me and snaps, “We’ve got loads of time. We’re still young!”

It’s so frustrating for me as I imagined getting married this summer and now I feel in limbo. Plus, my friends keep asking me when the big day is and it’s getting embarrassing.

Any advice on how I can talk about this without him getting so defensive about it all?

Coleen says

First of all, stop worrying about what your friends think – they obviously just want a party to go to.

I think you also need to be honest with yourself – has the Bridezilla gene kicked in? Are you scaring him off a little?

You’ve only been engaged for a few weeks, so why not try and relax a bit and enjoy this lovely romantic time in your life? Most people don’t get married straight away after announcing their engagement – they plan things in advance so they can save up for their dream wedding.

So, my advice is, don’t be in such a rush. Obviously, if you’re still in this position in a year’s time, then you need a more frank discussion about what you each want from the future. But I don’t think you need to worry just yet.