ANNOYED HIS EX WILL BE AT WEDDING

Dear Coleen

My boyfriend’s sister is about to get married. My dilemma is, he has a baby with his ex and this woman is close to his sister, so I know she’ll be at the wedding and that their daughter will be one of the flower girls.

As his current girlfriend, how should I handle this? I am very uncomfortable seeing her at family function but I feel powerless to do anything about it. I know I’m not in a position to decide who to invite to the wedding, but it’s driving me crazy that his ex will be there.

Is it OK that she’s invited, even though I will be there too?

Coleen says

I think this invite is probably more about their child than the adults involved – this little girl is the bride’s niece and I’m sure her parents will want their granddaughter to be there, too.

So I think you should show a bit of maturity and stop being so insecure.

If you can manage that, I think they’ll have more respect for you and like you even more. Imagine if, on the day, you don’t cause a fuss and you’re lovely to everyone – they’ll think, “What a great girl”.

My advice is, don’t give his ex any reason to cause problems. I’m sure your boyfriend will appreciate it, too, as it’s an awkward situation for him and he’s probably worried about how you and his ex will react being in the same room.

However, if you really feel you can’t handle it, it’ll be just as mature to admit to that and give your boyfriend your blessing to go and have a good time. If it were me, I would rather go and be part of it, than be sat at home brooding.