Coleen says

First of all, what you’re going through is very common. The arrival of a baby has a huge impact on any relationship – the physical and mental exhaustion, combined with getting used to your new roles as parents is tough.

I think the key is to take the pressure off sex and when you do have time together, work on rebuilding the bond between you. Go on dates without expecting sex at the end of it, and just try to have fun being a couple again whenever you get the chance. Make her feel attractive and desired.

Once she doesn’t feel that pressure to have sex, but is enjoying your time together, then it will become a much sexier idea.

But don’t contemplate looking elsewhere – this is a tough patch and it won’t last forever.

And when you talk to her about it, don’t blame her or threaten her, but ask what would make things easier for her, and how she’d like to spend those nights off together.