I’M PREGNANT AFTER QUICK FLING

Dear Coleen

I recently came out of a long-term relationship and started seeing someone I knew from years ago.

It was only for a couple of weeks and was pretty much just about sex, but it didn’t end that well. Basically he ghosted me (stopped contact with no explanation), and recently put on Facebook that he’s got a new girlfriend.

However, I’ve found out I’m pregnant. It’s definitely his. I don’t like kids and they’ve never been part of my plan but now I’m pregnant I feel guilty about having an abortion, so I’m not sure what to do yet.

Either way, I feel he should be told but I don’t know how to bring it up after he behaved the way he did, especially when he’s just announced that he’s in a relationship. I would really appreciate some advice.

Coleen says

Ultimately, it’s your body and your decision, but I agree that it would be good to let him know. I think as long as you don’t have any expectations when you tell him – ie, that he’ll come running back into your arms, offering to support you and the baby – then you won’t leave yourself open to being hurt.

His behaviour has been cowardly and childish – not great attributes for fatherhood – so you know what he’s like and that he’s not ready for any kind of commitment.

He might not be able to offer you any support while making this decision, but it’s important to speak to other people as well.

Talk to your GP and trusted friends, and your mum, so you feel supported and better able to make the right decision for you.