I CAN’T MOVE ON AND PINE AFTER EXES

Dear Coleen

I’m still in love with my two ex-boyfriends. I’ve not felt special or wanted since dating them.

I still work with my first ex and he is now happy with someone else.

Ex number two cheated on me with a married woman and they are now living ‘happily ever after’ with her two children after she kicked her husband out.

I would do anything for even just a hug from either of them.

I feel so alone and defeated in life. I’m only young, but can’t seem to imagine my life with anyone else.

If either of my two exes wanted to give things another go, I would jump at the chance. Is that wrong?

Coleen says

You are too young to be “defeated in life” so you have to start looking forward instead of wallowing in your past.

Both your exes have moved on and you should, too.

You have to remind yourself that there are good reasons why they’re your exes and my guess is that you haven’t met ‘the one’.

The truth is, you might have several more relationships before you meet someone you want to spend your life with.

If you’re feeling lonely and a bit miserable, then shake yourself out of your rut and make a big effort to restart your social life.

If you’re busy and engaging with other people you’ll have less time to sit around brooding over these exes. You will meet someone who thinks you’re very special, but you have to give yourself the opportunity to make that happen.