SHE’S GONE COLD AND CUT ME DEAD

Dear Coleen

A few months back I became really friendly with a woman at my company. We went out for dinner a few times and kissed.

We got on so well and she even said she’d never met a man she had so much in common with.

Then a few weeks ago she went on holiday with a few girlfriends and when she came back it was like she was a different person. She’s been avoiding me and not replying to messages. I know we weren’t dating officially and didn’t do anything beyond a kiss, but I miss her so much, especially her friendship.

I thought we were at the beginning of something really good. What should I do?

Coleen says

Well, honestly, I think her lack of response probably indicates she’s not interested in taking the friendship further. It is frustrating and confusing when someone won’t explain their actions.

Perhaps she had time to think while she was away with her friends and decided she didn’t want a relationship.

However, I think it’s rude and immature not to tell you that. To give her the benefit of the doubt, perhaps she knows she’ll hurt your feelings if she tells you the truth.

I think the longer you cling onto the hope of a relationship, the harder it’s going to be to move on. And maybe when she sees you’re fine and getting on with your life, she’ll make contact and explain.