BABY COULD BE MINE OR MY FRIEND’S

Dear Coleen

My ex-girlfriend left me and got together with my best friend. To cut a long story short, she is now pregnant, but doesn’t know if the baby is his or mine.

She also told me she doesn’t want to be with him any more and wants me back, but I don’t know how I feel about it.

Can I give the relationship another chance when we don’t know who the baby’s father is?

I’m confused and don’t know what to do. Please help.

Coleen says:

I think you need to leave the baby out of the equation for a bit and work out whether you want to be with her or not.

And, if you do, then find out the baby is his, can you deal with that? When the baby is born you can request a DNA test.

But it wouldn’t be good to play happy families, then find out the baby isn’t yours and walk away. If you want to be with her, then you are choosing to be either a great dad or a great stepdad.

I think you and your ex need to do a lot of talking if you’re going to give things another go. She has to be honest about why she jumped from you to your best friend. What was missing in your relationship and how committed is she now?

And while you may never be friends with this guy again, she needs to involve him in discussions about the baby, so everyone is in the picture.