I SEX DREAM ABOUT HOT GUY AT WORK

Dear Coleen

I have been with my boyfriend for just over a year. The relationship has been going really well and we’ve spoken about moving in together, and even discussed marriage and babies in our future.

I love him, so what’s really confusing is that recently I’ve been having sexual dreams about a colleague and it’s spilling over into real life because every time I’m with this guy, I feel so attracted to him and want to tell him. He’s very sexy and fun too, and I think he likes me. He’s definitely flirtatious.

I’m worried I’m going to end up in bed with this guy, as the sexual tension is so strong. I don’t want to be unfaithful, but I really fancy him – help!

Coleen says

Well, without wanting to sound too dramatic, I think you have to question if you’re in the right relationship, or at least question what’s missing. Have things become boring and mundane?

After a year of dating, most people are still at the swinging from chandeliers stage and don’t have eyes for anyone else.

Your boyfriend might be a great guy, but it doesn’t sound as if you’re ready to commit 100% and perhaps not ready to be in an exclusive relationship with anyone. Right now, I think the potential for you to have an affair is pretty high, so do something about the situation before that happens.

Be honest with your boyfriend – you don’t have to say you fancy someone else, but you can say you’re not sure you’re ready for a serious, exclusive relationship.

Open up the discussion and see where it goes – it might lead to both of you trying harder, or you might decide you’re not ready to take that next step.