HE GETS MAD IF I MENTION OUR WEDDING

Dear Coleen

I’ve been with my boyfriend for a couple of years and recently he asked me to marry him. We had a big engagement party for family and close friends which he enjoyed.

However, I’m now confused because he hates talking about actually getting married. In fact, if I ever mention the words wedding or marriage he gets angry.

I like to plan things and have goals to work towards, but he says there’s no rush because we’re still young. I don’t see why he’s not as excited as me to take this next step – I can’t wait to be married to him.

What do you think?

Coleen says

I think you should stop pressuring him and back off a bit, otherwise it could have the opposite effect and make him run for the hills!

What’s wrong with enjoying being engaged for a while? It’s a lovely period in your lives, you’ve made that commitment to each other and have plenty of time to plan and organise your wedding.

Yes, it can be irritating if people nag about when the wedding is, but just tell them you’re in no rush.

Don’t get caught up in guest lists and table plans – it’s the marriage that’s important, not the wedding, so you both have to feel ready to take that next step.