SHOULD I TELL FRIEND THAT I’M BISEXUAL?

Dear Coleen

I’m a bisexual woman, aged, 23, and I don’t know whether to tell my best friend that I fancy women, too. Usually, we tell each other everything, but I think this would come as a shock to her.

I guess I haven’t told her because I was worried she’d think I was hitting on her and it would spoil our relationship.

I’ve only properly dated guys before, but recently I’ve started seeing another woman, who I really like. I want to tell my friend and introduce them, but I don’t know how to do it!

And I also don’t want her to feel pushed out because I’m getting close to another woman.

Help!

Coleen says

I think you’re worrying about a lot of stuff that hasn’t happened and might never happen. Why not have a bit more confidence in your best friend?

OK, maybe she’ll be a bit shocked when you tell her you’re dating a woman if she has no inkling that you’re bisexual, but once that’s out of the way, I don’t see why it should affect your friendship.

And just be honest – tell her you’ve been worried about mentioning it in case it changed things between the two of you.

The only reason she’d feel pushed out would be if you made her feel that way, which I’m sure you have no intention of doing.

It’s always a bit strange when a best mate gets a new partner because you feel a bit territorial over them, but it’s just a question of getting to know the partner. Hopefully, your girlfriend and friend will get on really well.