WORKMATE IS BEING NASTY ABOUT FLING

Dear Coleen

I’m a single guy of 27 and I recently got really hurt after a female colleague made fun of our shortlived fling when we were out one night with work.

She was drunk, but she said some pretty personal things about my performance in bed and other stuff that made me look stupid.

I’m finding it hard to move on and I feel really angry with her.

She thought she was being funny, but she’s affected my self-esteem. I can barely drag myself into work, let alone start dating again.

Coleen says

OK, stop right there! This is hurt pride and ego, and you mustn’t dwell on it and let it affect your life like this.

Yes, it’s not nice and if she says anything else on the matter, then have a discreet word with her and ask her to stop. Remind her that you have to work together and unless she wants things to become awkward and difficult in the office, then she should move on.

It sounds to me as if she’s someone who is trying to build up her own self-esteem after your fling by making sure workmates know it was your fault and not hers that it didn’t work out.

It was childish of her and she was drunk, and I’m sure the rest of your colleagues can appreciate that. And if you do get any grief because of it, just throw some banter back, but don’t withdraw.

You know who you are and she fancied you enough at the time to go to bed with you.