WORRIED ABOUT FLING WITH BOSS

Dear Coleen

My boss is cheating on his girlfriend with me and he also flirts openly with the other women at work.

We have spoken about the pros and cons of the situation and he explained that he’s unhappy with his current relationship.

However, I really don’t feel good about keeping this secret and I’ve been worrying about losing my job over it. He also blames me for flirting first.

I’m seriously thinking of lying to him about finding a new lover to ease the tensions at work.

What do you think I should do?

Coleen says

I think you should trust your instincts, which are screaming at you that this relationship is no good, and end it. Invent a new lover if you’ll find that easier, or just tell him the truth – that you want to be single and look for someone who’s free to date. Also that you don’t want to make things difficult for either of you at work, so you want to go back to just being colleagues.

This guy is not only a player – flirting in the office and cheating on his girlfriend – he’s really not very nice. He’s abusing his position as a senior member of staff and he “blames” you for flirting first, so he’s basically saying if his girlfriend finds out or it all goes wrong at work, then it’s your fault and nothing to do with him.

If you do tell him that you want the relationship to return to being a professional one, then stick to it and don’t be drawn back in. Don’t flirt, don’t text and just focus on your job, which is clearly important to you.