IN LOVE WITH MY TEENAGE SWEETHEART

Dear Coleen

When I was a teenager, I fell in love with my first boyfriend, who was 25. After two years, he moved abroad for work but my family didn’t want me to keep in touch.

We didn’t hear from each other for 25 years until he found me on Facebook, got in touch and we met up. We both felt there was still so much love between us. He’s now back in the country, but has a wife and two kids.

He says he’s never stopped thinking of me and that he doesn’t love his wife – it was an arranged marriage. But it looks like he won’t leave her as his kids are still young – the youngest is 12.

He’s the love of my life and

I want us to get together, but what do I do?

Coleen says

He’s the one who got away and I think you have to be really careful about making this fantasy real because it might not live up to your expectations and could hurt a lot of people.

You’re nostalgic for that time 25 years ago, but you’re not the same people any more – you’ve grown and changed, and you’re a world away from those responsibilityfree lovestruck youngsters.

The fact is he’s married and, unless that changes, he’s not free to get romantically involved with you. Do you really want to have an affair and be responsible for breaking up his family?

If his marriage is really in trouble and he wants to be with you, then he’ll sort that out first. He could be going through a classic midlife crisis which is why he looked for you online.

But you could be the one who gets hurt if he boomerangs back to his wife when reality kicks in.