I THINK MY MANAGER FANCIES ME

Dear Coleen

I’m a single woman aged 28 and I started working at a new firm a few months ago. It’s a really friendly office, but I’ve noticed the boss is especially friendly towards me and think he may be interested in me romantically.

He’s never actually said anything, but his behaviour is flirtatious – he looks for any excuse to stop by my desk for a chat, he’s always smiling at me and giving me compliments (not about how I look, but my work).

I think he has a girlfriend, which makes it even more confusing. Do you think I might be reading too much into it?

Coleen says

Yes, I think you could be making a mountain out of a molehill and wonder if it’s a case of wishful thinking on your part?

He might be going out of his way to be friendly and approachable to help you settle in and is building your confidence by praising your work. Maybe he does think you’re attractive, but it doesn’t mean he’s going to do anything about it.

It’s a big risk to get involved with your boss – if things turn sour between you, you’ve still got to work together.

So, I’d think very carefully about your career and where you want to go in this job.

If I were you, I’d focus on what you’re there to achieve and look for love outside of the office, especially if this man turns out to have a girlfriend.