HE WANTS TO CROSS-DRESS ALL THE TIME

Dear Coleen

My husband, who is in his fifties, has been dressing up in lingerie for sex for the past couple of years.

I was a bit shocked when he first suggested it, but I was happy to try it and I wanted to make him feel happy and fulfilled.

Now, though, he’s told me he’d like to dress up fully as a woman around the house. I suppose my worry is, where is it going to lead? Will he want to dress up in public or go to work dressed as a woman?

I love him and I don’t want him to be unhappy, but I’m not sure how I feel about this and where it might go from here. Have you any advice?

Coleen says

It sounds to me as if you’re not comfortable with your husband dressing as a woman outside of your bedroom. And it’s perfectly OK to have these feelings and to want to discuss them with him.

Perhaps him admitting this to you has tapped into some deeper fears – perhaps you’re worried he wants to transition or that he’s more sexually interested in men than in you? I think you have to raise whatever fears you have with your husband.

You seem at great pains to ensure your husband is happy and fulfilled, but it’s important that you’re happy, too. So talk about boundaries and what you’d be willing to accept within your relationship. Maybe he can give you some reassurance and you’ll be able to compromise. Good luck.