REGRETTING CHANGE OF CAREER

Dear Coleen

I’m a woman in my early 30s and recently started retraining to switch careers. I’m finding it tough though, financially it’s a struggle, and I’m not able to do things with my friends the way I used to.

They’re all established in their careers and they think nothing of going out for expensive meals and for weekends away.

I don’t want to be a whinger or keep turning down offers, and I don’t want to go into my financial situation, but what do I do? After years of being able to have a nice lifestyle, I feel like a student again.

I also feel like I’m drifting away from my friends as I just can’t afford to do the things they like to do. I have another two years of surviving on a tiny amount of money and I don’t know whether I’ll make it. Have you any advice?

Coleen says

It’s a tough one, but you have to remember why you started the course and what it could lead to.

At the moment, because it’s tough, it might seem the best option is to ditch the course and pick up your previous career, but you could regret bailing out.

If you finish it and it leads to a more fulfilling career with a better salary, you can go for as many posh meals as you like.

It’s hard going back and getting used to having less disposable cash, but focus on the fact you’re creating a better life, and good on you for making such a brave decision. You’re young and two years isn’t long.

As for going out, how much are you really missing? It’s not like your friends and restaurants won’t be there in two years’ time. Be selective about what you do if you can’t do everything, and make sure you enjoy those times. Be kind to yourself as well.

And just be honest with your friends – they’ll understand. Tell them things will be tight and you might not be able to come to everything, but you’ll try. If they know what you’re up against I’m sure they’ll be more thoughtful.