ENGAGED BUT HE’S STALLING OVER BIG DAY

Dear Coleen

I got engaged to my boyfriend in September after two years together. The engagement party at my parents’ house was so special.

I expected us to start planning the wedding, but he’s just gone cold on it and says we’re still young and that there’s plenty of time to organise it.

I’m feeling confused about why he’s stalling. Yes, we are young, but not that young – I’m 26 and he’s 28.

We rent a house together and we’re both working, so there’s no reason why we can’t start planning our next step.

It’s been six months since the party and people keep asking when we’re getting married. I find myself lying because I don’t want to tell them the truth, that my fiancé is just not interested.

What should I do?

Coleen says

Being engaged is a commitment, but it doesn’t mean you have to plunge straight into marriage.

Some people are engaged for years as it can take a long time to save up for their Big Day.

Stop pressuring your fiance and try to enjoy this lovely period of being engaged. Don’t spoil it by becoming obsessed over a date.

As for friends and family wanting to know the date, zone them out. Those questions never stop – you’ll get married then they’ll ask when you’re having kids.

As lovely as it is, a wedding is only one day. You’ll go back to living in your house and being the people you are. The most important thing is your relationship and how solid that is.

So focus on that and on building on the intimacy and communication between you.