YOUNG BLOKE IN THE OFFICE WINKS AT ME

Dear Coleen

I’m a single woman aged 45 (divorced two years ago) and I’ve been picking up signals from a younger guy at work, who sometimes winks at me or I catch him staring over from his desk.

He’s in his 20s, so I’d be pretty surprised if he was interested in me, but he’s very attractive.

He’s always smiling at me and the other day when I was standing in a queue for coffee, he got up close when trying to squeeze by.

I think there’s a definite sexual attraction between us, but he’s never said anything to me and I’m a bit embarrassed to say anything to him. Am I making too much of this?

Coleen says

I think you might be. Maybe he’s just a friendly guy or maybe he does find you attractive, hence the flirty looks. He might just be a big flirt who smiles at lots of women.

I’d be careful about building this up in your mind into something more than it is because you might be disappointed.

It sounds to me as if you’re enjoying a bit of escapism, which is absolutely fine, and I’m sure the fact he’s handsome and 20 years younger has a part to play.

But you have to think carefully about getting into an office romance or even a short-lived fling because you still have to work with that person if the relationship goes wrong. New jobs aren’t easy to come by and it sounds as if your job has provided stability through a rocky period.

However, fancying this guy is a sign that you’re ready to start dating again after your divorce, which is great. You just have to ask yourself if you want a fling with a young guy, or something with more long-term potential.