Dear Coleen

FOUND THE ONE BUT HE DOESN’T WANT A CHILD

I’ve fallen in love with a great guy, who’s perfect for me in all but one area – he’s told me he doesn’t want another child.

He’s six years older than me and already has two with his ex-wife.

This is giving me sleepless nights because I don’t know whether I can give in on such a huge decision.

I’m 34 and need to get on with it if I want to become pregnant. I wanted my next partner to be the one, someone to start a family with.

I desperately want that person to be him, but I think I’m fighting a losing battle. He’s even said he’s considered a vasectomy. I don’t think he’ll change his mind.

Is there any way to get everything I want here?

Coleen says

I don’t think there is. If he really doesn’t want a child, it’s a huge mistake to force him into it as your relationship will suffer.

Every time you hit a bump in the road, he could turn round and blame you because you were the one who insisted on having a child.

He’s not perfect for you as he doesn’t want what you want. It’s a massive decision to give up that chance of being a mum, so you have to tell him it’s a deal breaker.

When I was younger I couldn’t have stayed with a partner not interested in a family because it’s something I’d always wanted.

My sister didn’t have her own family because her hubby already had two children who she loved.

They were blissfully happy, but not having her own child is the one thing she regrets.

Don’t waste any more time. You don’t need to meet anyone these days to have a baby – you can go down the sperm donation route.

Just don’t have a child with someone who doesn’t want one.