Magic show assistant has cast a love spell over me
I am a 27-year-old female magician and my problem is that I’m in love with my assistant.
She’s 27 as well and we’ve been a duo for five years, performing a classic magic show. Our outfits make a statement, too – I wear a shirt, waistcoat, bow tie, skirt, jacket and heels, while she wears a gold dress with long black gloves and heels.
I know this woman inside out – I know she’s bisexual, which is OK, as I’m gay.
I know this sounds ridiculous, but I feel a little sad when I do tricks on her, like sawing her in half and seeing her in the box with her feet sticking out one end and her head with its strawberry blonde hair out the other!
I feel like I’m cutting into a work of art when I’m “sawing” into her body.
She makes out she likes working as my assistant and I like her working for me, too, however I’d also like her to be my girlfriend.
Do I look for a new assistant for the show, so we can be together?
I’m not sure what to do for the best – any advice would help.
Coleen says
It sounds like the beginnings of a plot for a sitcom! OK, I think you’re getting a little ahead of yourself. This is her job and her livelihood, and it sounds as if she enjoys it, but I understand there’s a conflict for you because you have feelings for her.
You don’t say if you’ve picked up on any signs from her that she might feel the same way.
Probably the first thing to do is be honest with her about how you feel. I know this is never easy when you’re unsure of how the other person will react, but because the two of you work so closely together, it makes sense to get it out in the open.
However, you have to be prepared that you might not get the answer you want and you’ll have to think about your working relationship.
She might say she doesn’t want to become romantically involved, but wants to stay as your assistant. Or she might have developed feelings for you, too, but still wants to work with you.
It can get complicated when you bring romance into a work situation. Also, it might not be that easy to find another assistant or someone else that you have such great onstage chemistry with, and it could impact your act.
If you do decide to bite the bullet and tell her how you feel, consider all of this and discuss it.
You obviously have a close personal and working relationship, so hopefully you can be honest with each other and work it out together.
Good luck.