Should I give cheating hubby one last chance?

Dear Coleen,

MY husband slept with a girl he met via personal ads 18 months ago. Since then, we’ve had our ups and downs.

But two months ago, I found out he’d started contacting five different women – again through personal ads.

He insists he never met up with any of them and he only did it for the thrill of it. I don’t know if I believe him, though.

The girls didn’t look any prettier or thinner than me and a couple were 10 years older than I am – so at least I don’t feel ugly and humiliated like I did last time.

My question is, why is he doing this again?

We were having lots of sex, although I was usually the one to initiate it. On a few occasions he even turned me down, coming up with rubbish excuses.

On our anniversary weekend, he called three different girls and there were at least 20 messages on his phone from them.

That night he left me at 1am, after we had sex, and I saw from the call log on his phone that he’d called one girl five minutes after leaving my house.

Of course he says he is sorry. He says it’s opened his eyes to what he really wants – probably because I dumped him this time.

He knows I’m done playing games. As a result, he lets me see all his emails, phone records, everything. He also wants to go to therapy.

Do I make an effort or run like hell?

Coleen says..

IT’S good to hear that he’s willing to do anything to make it up to you and get the relationship back on track. He’s willing to go to counselling, not just saying he’s sorry and won’t do it again, and seems to be putting in the effort.

So, if you feel you’re still in love with him and the relationship has a future, then maybe it’s worth trying.

But – and it’s a big but – he needs to understand that this is the last chance saloon.

Also, once things get cosy again, don’t let him wriggle out

On our anniversary weekend, he called one of the girls minutes after we had sex

of all the promises he’s made. Often people make the decision to dump someone because they don’t want to look stupid in front of others. But it’s your life and the decision has to be based 100 per cent on what you want.

Even if you give it six months of trying, at least you can walk away knowing you tried without worrying: “What if ?”