Coleen says

IT’S very difficult when someone won’t confront a personal problem. And it sounds like he’s withdrawn from you totally – there’s no affection either.

I know it’s frustrating for you but try to approach this with sympathy. It must be difficult for him to lose that side of himself, too, and he may feel emasculated and too proud or embarrassed to do anything about it.

There is medication available that can help but he has to want to go to his GP – you can’t force him to do it. Tell him you love him and you’re not ready to give up intimacy with him and that if you had a similar problem where your sex drive was low, you would try to sort it out.

If he’s genuinely not bothered about himself, then there are other ways of pleasuring you (if you see that as an option).

I think you need to rebuild intimacy between you. Start by getting back in the same bed with each other. It’s not just about sex –it’s about feeling loved as well as desired.

TO THE single mum who is still hurting over her ex dumping her and thinks her daughter would be better off without her (Dear Coleen, March 13), you’re not a bad mum.

You love your daughter – but why not do some mother/ daughter activities that will benefit you both?

If you can’t cook, learn with your daughter – she’ll love it. And why not go for a walk in the park with her two or three times a week – the exercise will be good for you both.

Yes, you’re hurt and angry after the way your ex treated you but don’t let your daughter pay the price.

Ultimately, it’s good he wants to be in her life. Name and email address supplied