Dear Coleen

MY HUSBAND GETS SCARY WHEN DRUNK

MY HUSBAND is a recovering alcoholic. He went into residential rehab for a month last year and has been doing so well.

However, every now and then he will have a relapse and go out and end up very drunk.

When this happens, he’s verbally aggressive and I get very anxious. He doesn’t remember the things he’s said or done the morning after.

I don’t know how to handle these episodes and I get so frustrated with him. I know he has an illness, but we’ve spent so much on rehab and he’s lost his job through drinking. I don’t want to start resenting him, but I don’t know what to do for the best.

Everything has been about him and how he’s doing, but I’m worn out. Can you help?