Coleen says

HOW very sad and I’m sorry for your loss.

You haven’t said how he died or why you think his family have cut you off.

However, what I do know is that your grief is not going to disappear in two months – your emotions are still very raw and you have to expect healing to take time.

If I were you, I’d seek bereavement counselling – speak to your GP about a referral and you can also contact the bereavement charity Cruse (cruse.org.uk).

It sounds as if your family are doing what they can but sometimes it takes more than that.

Counselling really helped my sister Linda after her husband died. It’ll take the edge off that feeling of loneliness and also help you to see things more logically.

It’s not logical to think every person who loves you will leave you. Your boyfriend didn’t leave you – he died. But I think you would benefit from professional support to give you coping strategies.

As for your boyfriend’s family, they’re grieving too and people often act strangely when grief is involved.

Focus on yourself and accept all the help you can.

I AGREE wholeheartedly with your advice to the 35st woman who’s worried for her overweight six-year-old daughter (Dear Coleen, April 12).

I’d like to pass on the information that her doctor can also refer her and her daughter to slimming clubs, such as Slimming World, which kids under 15 can attend for free.

And with a GP’s referral, adults can also get 12 weeks free of charge.

Pam Crouzieres