Dear Coleen

FIVE years ago, my husband and I both agreed that he should have a vasectomy after we had our second child.

Now I’m yearning to have another baby and I’m starting to resent him for getting the snip.

I’m 33, he’s 32 and we have a 10-year-old son and a six-year-old daughter.

My husband freely admits he didn’t enjoy the first few years of bringing up our kids, especially as our daughter was so difficult. She was an awful sleeper and by the time she turned one she’d run us completely ragged.

So much so, that even though he was only 27, my husband was adamant he didn’t want any more kids.

I thought he would be refused the snip because of his age but the doctor approved it and referred him for surgery within weeks.

At the time I was probably 90 per cent sure I didn’t want more kids but my husband had lost all faith in contraception as our son was conceived when I was on the pill and I had the coil fitted when I got pregnant with our daughter.

I’ll admit the past few years have been great – our daughter finally settled and has turned into a lovely little girl. Now my husband dotes on her, along with our son.

I can tell he’s content with what he’s got but lately I’ve begun to feel broody.

I’ve started feeling angry and resentful towards him and I’m kicking myself for letting him go through with the op. What do you suggest?