AGE GAP WORRIES MY GIRLFRIEND

Dear Coleen

I MET a woman towards the end of last year and I’ve fallen for her in a big way.

She’s 28 and I’m 20, so there’s quite a big age gap.

I’m not worried about this at all but she does think about it a lot.

I know she’s into me but she also worries about the future and settling down and she probably assumes I won’t be ready to do that.

I think her friends are also a factor because they’ve put doubts in her mind.

I really want to make a go of it with her – I love her, it’s as simple as that.

My friends like her and she’s met my family but the age gap is a big thing in her mind and it’s preventing us from acting on how we feel.

What can I do?

Coleen says

I DON’T think it’s a huge age gap and it’ll feel less important when you’re 26 and she’s 34, for example.

So you should point that out to her and also the fact that you may only be 20, but emotionally you feel ready for a serious relationship.

But I understand why she’s thinking ahead a bit – her biological clock has probably started ticking louder and she might want a committed partner to start a family with. Not many guys of 20 are ready to think about stuff like that yet.

She probably needs to stop focusing so much on what her mates think and concentrate on what she wants.

Maybe her friends are a little bit jealous.

But if you’re both happy and work with the age gap, then there isn’t a problem.