Dear Coleen

I WAS in a relationship with a man for six years. He was a control freak and a manipulative bully boy. He made all the rules to suit himself and constantly demeaned me, comparing me to other women he knows, picking on how I dressed.

I even organised visits to see my only granddaughter so it didn’t impact on him. He made cruel remarks about my daughter-in-law who was in a wheelchair and recovering from breast cancer.

And I couldn’t say hello to another man without him going mad. The list goes on.

He also started inappropriate flirting with one of his friend’s girlfriends at the club we went to every second Saturday night.

One night, he didn’t have the opportunity to flirt with her and got into a violent temper and roared so loudly and so close to my ear that everyone scattered.

Afterwards my blood pressure was so high it caused an aneurism and I had to have surgery. He didn’t even say sorry.

He went on to meet a married woman, who he’s seeing behind her husband’s back, but he’s also started calling me, pleading for us to get back together and saying he’s not happy with his current relationship.

This is the same man who gives out Holy Communion every Sunday. Thankfully, I recovered fully but I can’t let go of the anger I feel towards my ex.

I would like your opinion as he blames me for everything.