Dear Coleen

I OVERHEARD my wife saying horrible things about me to her friend and it’s made me wonder whether I should call time on our marriage.

I’m 39, she’s 36 and we’ve been together for eight years. We also have a son aged two.

We haven’t had sex since our son was born. I’ve tried talking to her but she says her sex drive went after the birth and she’s never in the mood.

We don’t do anything as a couple any more. Again, she makes excuses, but when her friends ask her to go out, she drops everything.

Then the other day she and a friend were sitting in our garden talking while I was upstairs doing DIY. The window was open and I could hear them, which they obviously didn’t realise.

My wife said some awful things – really unjust and unfair. She talked about our non-existent sex life and said she does want sex but finds my body “repulsive” and that I do nothing for her. I’m not an Adonis but I’m pretty OK for my age. She started raving about a “dream man” who she’d been talking to at work and said she found him sexy.

Instead of sticking up for me, her friend just asked if she was going to “do anything” with him and both of them laughed.

She told her friend about us having a conversation about getting a new bathroom and said that although she was being civil, in her mind she was saying, “Shut up, shut up” because she couldn’t stand hearing my voice.

Should I confront her and try to sort it out or do you think it’s too late and my marriage is dead?