Win or lose, MPs must mind their Ps and Qs
SO you’ve finally got your result. You’re in or you’re out. Even for professional politicians, it’s an awkward moment.
Gloating, or sulking, are not good ideas. So we asked a beauty queen and an etiquette coach how the winners and losers should behave.
Businesswoman Ursula Carlton, 26, knows all about victory. She’s the reigning Miss GB. And solicitor Marie-Helene Ferguson is founder of the London School of Etiquette. Tip 1. Be honest, open and
grateful: You’re entitled to celebrate, but remember you didn’t get here all by yourself.
Ursula, of Nairn, said: “When I won Miss GB it was the greatest moment of my life. You have to be grateful to the judges and those who got you where you are.
“You wouldn’t have got there without others. It’s best to respond with gratitude, not boastfulness.” Tip 2. Acknowledge the losers, but don’t patronise them: A little selfawareness goes a long way. Imagine how you’d feel in their shoes. And people will think well of you if you offer a word of encouragement, support or even a compliment. Ursula, below, said: “I was really good friends with the other girls in the contest. They’ve worked just as hard. It’s about ensuring they’re not disheartened and winning without being brash.” Tip 3: Body language: Marie-Helene said: “If you win, of course you want to look pleased. Your voters want a positive reaction. But nobody likes seeing someone get overexcited, especially in their opponents’ faces. So control your body language – no jumping about or fist-pumping.” Tip 4: Don’t be afraid to be sad: No one expects less than an honest reaction if you lose. MarieHelene said: “Those who voted for you will also be disappointed. Your reaction should reflect that. “But no one likes a sore loser. Some contestants will be more bitter than others but you’ve really got to overcome that and shake the other person’s hand as quickly as possible.” But what if you don’t think the winner deserves it? Well... Tip 5: Be prepared: MarieHelene said: “Part of the etiquette process is to prepare yourself for each eventuality, rehearse it in front of others and practise. It sounds ridiculous, but it’s what leaders do in front of the mirror.”