Dear Coleen

I’M IN my second serious relationship. My previous one lasted a year and we lost our virginity to one another. He always wanted sex more than I did.

I’m now with someone who has had five sexual partners.

He enjoys sex a lot and wants it daily but I could go weeks without it.

He says he doesn’t want to pressure me but he keeps making snide comments about our sex life.

I’m not very experienced, so there are things I haven’t done with him, out of fear of the unknown and because I don’t have the drive to do them.

When we met, we had passionate sex for a week but since then I’ve rarely wanted it.

We are now living together and I’ve been away for the past week but I only wanted a cuddle when I got back.

I’m worried this will break us up. He’s said he doesn’t feel wanted by me and we’re not intimate enough.

To me, cuddling and kissing is intimate and all the affection I need. I’ve told him how much I love him but he says it’s not the same.

He insists he won’t leave me, but I’m concerned. I’m not purposely doing this to him and it’s not that I don’t find him attractive, I just don’t have a desire for sex.

I realise most couples do have sex regularly and I don’t know why my body doesn’t react in the same way.