Coleen says

I THINK the teenage years are really tricky for most of us.

That time between 16 and 18 is tough because you’re studying for exams and there is a lot of stress and expectation.

Then suddenly you’re 18 and can do what you want but you’re not sure what to do. And people start treating you like an adult and expect you to behave like one. Naturally, it’s confusing.

But look, you can either sink into depression and adopt a “poor me” attitude or you can think “I’m 18 and the world is my oyster” and go out and make things happen for yourself.

Maybe your parents don’t understand how you feel because you haven’t explained it to them. Sit down and tell them you’re feeling demotivated and lonely, and see if they have any ideas.

As for friends, they don’t come knocking on your door. You need to get out there and work at finding them – all of us do. Start by finding a hobby or activity you enjoy. And if you’re not into anything in particular, try stuff and see what appeals. If you’re feeling really low and need confidential support and advice, visit youngminds.org.uk.

I’D LIKE to reply to the young girl who is worried about leaving school for college (Dear Coleen, June 30). My 16-year-old granddaughter decided to go to college last September and also had a bad year at school being bullied by so-called friends. It ended with her having a meltdown.

She was nervous about starting college as she didn’t know anyone. We told her to take a deep breath and go in with a smile on her face.

Yes, she found it hard at first but soon made friends. And she enjoyed being treated as an adult instead of a schoolchild.

It was the best thing she did as she ended up with excellent grades. I wish your young reader all the very best.

D Stocker, by email