Coleen says

WELL, if he’s perfect in every other way then, rather than dump him, I think you should tell him and give him a chance to rein it in. He is probably unaware he’s doing it.

I think it is possible to tell him without him getting embarrassed or upset, and ending up defensive.

Next time you’re having a meal, say, jokingly, something like, ‘Hey, there’s no rush. This is supposed to be a romantic meal not fast food. Didn’t your mum ever tell you to eat nicely?’

But if this turns out to be a big issue for you, then he’s not Mr Perfect.

It could get on your nerves for years and even be a catalyst for divorce.

It’s often the small things that send people over the edge.

I’D LIKE to comment on the letter from the woman who found out her best friend’s new husband has been having an affair (Dear Coleen, Aug 2).

A similar thing happened to me six months ago with my partner of six years. I got suspicious when he cancelled two long-haul trips we’d booked.

So I rang his ex, who was totally shocked as she thought they were still together.

They lived separately, so when he wasn’t with me he was with her. She took him back, blaming herself for giving him too much freedom.

I’m now with someone else and console myself with the thought that he’ll get his comeuppance one day.

Jay, via email