Dear Coleen

MY EX broke up with me out of the blue after seven months. We had been in a very good place, or so I thought, planning to move in together and booking holidays. I thought our relationship was blossoming.

At the point of the split I was due to have an operation, which was causing me anxiety and he was under pressure at work, finishing a contract. But the break-up was triggered by such a minor tiff and it was the only row we’d ever had.

The next morning he woke up and said he needed time to think. Four days later he ended things after I told him I loved him for the first time.

On the morning of my operation he contacted me via a message to wish me luck and visited me at home a week later. But he never really gave an explanation for leaving me, only that the 45-minute distance between us was too much, which didn’t make sense as we had been talking about living together.

Because I felt lonely, I signed up to a few dating sites and I came across my ex on there, and it hurt seeing that he was ready to move on.

A few weeks later, we got in touch again and he told me he still fancied me and we ended up sleeping together. But the next morning he made it clear he didn’t want to be with me, although he “wouldn’t rule it out in the future”. It’s been a couple of weeks without contact and I’ve just found out I’m pregnant. This is not how I saw my life. I am 29 and he is 30.

I wanted to be in a stable relationship when bringing a child into the world. I am petrified of doing it alone. I haven’t told him and assume he’ll be furious.