Dear Coleen

I WAS in a serious relationship with a guy in high school for about two years. We split up once for about a week but then got back together. We were in love and had even talked about getting married some day.

However, I began to find out that lots of my friends and also family didn’t really like this guy, so we broke up in our final year of school. We agreed to date other people to see if we really were meant for each other or if there was someone else out there.

I started seeing someone new in March 2016 and he is my now husband. We only dated for a short time before he had to go off to start his training with the Army. We got married in February this year, so we hadn’t even known each other 12 months. We were only 19 at the time.

Then my husband got sent overseas for a year with his job and I’m now realising that maybe we did things way too fast. In the meantime, my ex and I have always checked in with each other to see how things are going but I don’t think I ever really stopped loving him.

I don’t know if these feeling are purely because my husband is not back until February and I want companionship. I love him but there is part of me that just wants to be with my ex.