Coleen says

I CAN understand why you feel hurt. However, I think this may have been a way to cope with the situation at home – an avenue to off-load some of the stress he was feeling.

People handle stressful situations differently, and some do it through humour.

Perhaps he wanted to say, ‘I’m really struggling and don’t know what to do’, but couldn’t allow himself to be that vulnerable and honest.

As for his workmates, I don’t think they were being malicious. I have two brothers and two sons, and I’ve seen them handle stress and upsetting situations in a similar way.

On the other hand, my sisters and me can talk about how we feel and not be afraid to show vulnerability.

I don’t think any of it means your partner doesn’t love you or doesn’t take what happened to you seriously. Explain it hurt you and you’d prefer him not to discuss your private life in future, then move on.

Then celebrate the fact you feel well and start planning your wedding.