Dear Coleen

AFTER five years of marriage, my wife has just left me claiming she’s been unhappy for the past two years. I had no idea.

We’re both 47 and she had a nine-month affair during the second year of our marriage but I forgave her.

She cheated on her first husband and walked out on him, too, so it seems it’s a case of deja vu.

Lately she’d been going out a lot and staying out late with her mate who is single.

My wife didn’t come home until the small hours, worse for wear.

I’m pretty sure she’s been seeing someone else. I caught her acting suspiciously the other week while on her phone and when I asked to see who was messaging her, she refused point-blank to let me look, which started alarm bells ringing.

Then she dropped the bombshell that she had genital herpes, which naturally made me even more suspicious. Also, the intimacy has gone between us and she finds having sex with me a chore.

She doesn’t seem interested in trying to sort out our problems – she seems to want the single life with me paying for it.

I still pay all the bills and she left me with her two grown-up lads who she really hasn’t given a thought to throughout this. She only works part time, so I don’t know how she can afford to go out as often as she does.

I also think she’s hoping to get the house and a share of my pension. Is it worth trying to save this marriage?