HUBBY CAN’T SATISFY MY NEEDS IN BED

Dear Coleen

I’VE been married for 13 years and for the past three months I’ve been cheating on my husband with a married colleague.

The reason is that my partner doesn’t satisfy me sexually and this guy does. I’ve spoken to my husband many times about my sexual needs and he agrees with the fact that he sometimes only thinks about himself.

I don’t have any feelings whatsoever for this guy that I’m sleeping with and he feels the same about me – it’s just sex.

What do I do?

Coleen says

IF YOU don’t have feelings for this guy and still love your husband, then what are you doing? It’s all very well saying you’ve told him many times about your sexual needs but you have to do something sensible about it.

It sounds as if those chats end really quickly but the next question has to be: “What are we going to do about it?”

Both you and this guy are married, so lots of lives could be badly affected by what you’re doing, and what for? Just sex? Think about the potential fallout carefully.

You obviously want an intimate connection that’s about more than just sex. If you and your husband try to make things more exciting and satisfying in bed but you find it’s not working then you could try psychosexual therapy.

But it would be a shame to throw in the towel on your marriage without finding out if you can do something to make sex good again.